Brad Pitt has broken his silence on his split from Angelina Jolie. The dad-of-six opened up about his family being “ripped apart” in a candid, new interview with GQ Style. “'If you love someone, set them free.’ Now I know what it means, by feeling it. It means to love without ownership. It means expecting nothing in return. But it sounds good written. It sounds good when Sting sings it. It doesn't mean f-ck-all to me until, you know,” the War Machine actor said.
VER GALERÍA The actor spoke out about his divorce from Angelina Jolie for the first time Photo: Ryan McGinley exclusively for GQ Style
Angelina – who shares Maddox, 15, Shiloh, ten, Pax, 13, Zahara, 12, and eight-year-old twins Vivienne and Knox – with the 53-year-old, filed for divorce last September after two years of marriage. Brad admitted that the process has been “very jarring for the kids.” Following the pair’s split, the Los Angeles Department of Children and Family Services and the FBI launched an investigation into the actor after allegations of child abuse were reported. Brad confessed, “I was really on my back and chained to a system when Child Services was called. And you know, after that, we've been able to work together to sort this out. We're both doing our best.” He added, “I heard one lawyer say, ‘No one wins in court—it's just a matter of who gets hurt worse.’ And it seems to be true, you spend a year just focused on building a case to prove your point and why you're right and why they're wrong, and it's just an investment in vitriolic hatred. I just refuse. And fortunately my partner in this agrees.”
Living in his Hollywood Hills home, which he said has always been his kids' “childhood home,” was initially “too sad” after his split from the mother of his children. Brad told the interviewer, “This house was always chaotic and crazy, voices and bangs coming from everywhere, and then, as you see, there are days like this: very…very solemn.”
VER GALERÍA Brad revealed that he has stopped drinking Photo: Ryan McGinley exclusively for GQ Style
The Hollywood star acknowledged that his drinking had become a problem, though he has since changed his lifestyle over the last several months. Brad shared, “I mean I stopped everything except boozing when I started my family. But even this last year, you know—things I wasn't dealing with. I was boozing too much. It's just become a problem. And I'm really happy it's been half a year now, which is bittersweet, but I've got my feelings in my fingertips again. I think that's part of the human challenge: You either deny them all of your life or you answer them and evolve.”
As for why he decided to stop drinking, the actor admitted, “Don't want to live that way anymore.” Brad is also trying to improve the way he expresses himself. He explained, “I'm personally very retarded when it comes to taking inventory of my emotions. I'm much better at covering up. I grew up with a Father-knows-best/war mentality—the father is all-powerful, super strong—instead of really knowing the man and his own self-doubt and struggles. And it's hit me smack in the face with our divorce: I gotta be more. I gotta be more for them. I have to show them. And I haven't been great at it."
VER GALERÍA The dad-of-six admitted his divorce has been "very jarring for the kids" Photo: Ryan McGinley exclusively for GQ Style
Apart from taking up sculpting to ease his mind, the Allied star has also started therapy. He said, “I love it, I love it. I went through two therapists to get to the right one.” While Brad continues to “un-numb” himself, he is evaluating everything that matters to him. He said, “Sitting with those horrible feelings, and needing to understand them, and putting them into place. In the end, you find: I am those things I don't like. That is a part of me. I can't deny that. I have to accept that. And in fact, I have to embrace that. I need to face that and take care of that. Because by denying it, I deny myself. I am those mistakes.”
Brad continued, “For me every misstep has been a step toward epiphany, understanding, some kind of joy. Yeah, the avoidance of pain is a real mistake. It's the real missing out on life. It's those very things that shape us, those very things that offer growth, that make the world a better place, oddly enough, ironically. That make us better.”