Prince Harry experienced two years of “total chaos” following the tragic death of his mother, Princess Diana. The mental health advocate opened up about his own struggles, while revealing that he sought counseling to cope with his grief during a candid interview with The Telegraph. “I’ve spent most of my life saying ‘I’m fine’ … and most of us aren’t up for going that deep. So today I’m OK. I’m a little bit nervous. I’m a little bit tight in the chest but otherwise fine,” the 32-year-old confessed. "It was 20 years of not thinking about it and two years of total chaos."
VIEW GALLERY Harry sought help after his mother's death Photo: Anwar Hussein/WireImage
Harry was only 12-years-old when his mother was killed in a car crash in Paris back in 1997, though he admittedly didn’t process his grief until he was much older. “I can safely say that losing my mom at the age of 12 and therefore shutting down all of my emotions for the last 20 years has had quite a serious effect on not only my personal life but also my work as well,” he said. "My way of dealing with it was sticking my head in the sand, refusing to ever think about my mom, because why would that help? [I thought] it's only going to make you sad, it's not going to bring her back. So from an emotional side, I was like 'right, don't ever let your emotions be part of anything.’”
Harry continued, ”So I was a typical 20, 25, 28-year-old running around going 'life is great', or 'life is fine' and that was exactly it. And then [I] started to have a few conversations and actually all of a sudden, all of this grief that I have never processed started to come to the forefront and I was like, there is actually a lot of stuff here that I need to deal with."
The British Prince eventually sought counseling at the request of his older brother Prince William. “It’s all about timing. And for me personally, my brother, you know, bless him, he was a huge support to me. He kept saying this is not right, this is not normal, you need to talk to [someone] about stuff, it’s OK,” Harry recalled. “The timing wasn’t right. You need to feel it in yourself, you need to find the right person to talk to as well.”
VIEW GALLERY The Prince along with his brother and sister-in-law are advocates for mental health Photo: Twitter/@KensingtonRoyal
Meghan Markle’s boyfriend, who has since seen a therapist “more than a couple of times,” also turned to boxing to deal with his emotions, which "saved" him.’’ These days Harry is in a “good place” and is looking towards the future, admitting that he would love to have his own children. The Prince, who spearheaded the Heads Together mental health campaign with his brother and sister-in-law — Kate Middleton — said: “What we are trying to do is normalize the conversation to the point where anyone can sit down and have a coffee and just go ‘you know what, I’ve had a really s--- day, can I just tell about it? Because then you walk away and it’s done.” He is now in a “good place."
Harry added, “Because of the process I have been through over the past two and a half years, I’ve now been able to take my work seriously, been able to take my private life seriously as well, and been able to put blood, sweat and tears into the things that really make a difference and things that I think will make a difference to everybody else.”